{"id":8534,"date":"2021-07-01T17:40:26","date_gmt":"2021-07-01T17:40:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindfulsouls.org\/?p=8534"},"modified":"2021-07-01T17:40:26","modified_gmt":"2021-07-01T17:40:26","slug":"the-cost-of-the-label","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/2021\/07\/01\/the-cost-of-the-label\/","title":{"rendered":"The Cost of the Label"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"p1\"><i>Tagging a child is something that has been done from the time that we remember. It is natural and accepted, but is it the correct thing to do?<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">We\u2019ve often heard comments from parents stating, \u201cMy child is fussy\u201d or \u201cMy child is so stubborn.\u201d While these are intended to be harmless nuggets of information merely mentioning a particular trait that may have been observed by the parent, these have the power of becoming the way a child perceives himself or herself. For a parent, this might be a comment made in the heat of the moment, definitely not something that they believe in, but a tiny nagging voice in the child&#8217;s mind may hold on to this label.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"color: #102858;\"><strong>Impacts how they are perceived<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">Labeling a child can affect how others see them. In general, most of us tend to use negative labels and we also discuss these. While the parent begins with a clean slate every time, the same may not hold true for even the most non-judgemental outsiders. As a result, their perception of the child may alter and may also have an effect on how they treat the child. Labels and tags also have an impact on how their peers perceive them and this can have a huge impact on a child\u2019s self-esteem.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span style=\"color: #102858;\">Lowers the expectations<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">When children are given labels and specifically negative labels, those lower the expectations that people have from them. This demotivates children and also affects their self-confidence. There may also be situations where they do not get the opportunity to perform or achieve something that they may be good at, only because of the negative perception associated with the label. On the other hand, positive labels like \u201cYou are so smart\u201d or \u201cYou are always first\u201d may pressurize them to conform to the expectations at all times. This can create unnecessary stress.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">Children believe what they hear and if they have a tag associated with their personality, at some point they may eventually begin to believe that that is who they are and the tag will start to define their actions as well as their reactions. To avoid this, it is imperative to try not to label a child, instead, we could label the behavior. It is important to remember that whether a label is positive or negative, it is bound to impact the child in some way or the other.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tagging a child is something that has been done from the time that we remember. It is natural and accepted, but is it the correct thing to do?\u00a0 We\u2019ve often heard comments from parents stating, \u201cMy child is fussy\u201d or \u201cMy child is so stubborn.\u201d While these are intended to be harmless nuggets of information [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":8535,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,2,8],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8534"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8534"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8534\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8534"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8534"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.mindfulsouls.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8534"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}